Looking for birth mom: Facebook proves to be a useful tool

Posted on: July 07th 2011

Open adoption is a relatively new concept in which birth parents and adopting parents know each other’s names and usually addresses. The amount of post-birth contact is mutually agreed upon by the birth parents and adopting parents. What happens when an adopted child or adopted adult wants to find his or her birth parents but doesn’t have this contact information? Much has been made recently about adoptees finding parents on Facebook. The advantage of Facebook is obvious–accessibility. The issues and questions this raises are much more nuanced. When should parents tell their child she or he was adopted? What if the birth parent doesn’t want to be contacted? Who’s to stop an adoptee from looking? Should birth parents first ask adopting parents’ permission to contact adoptees?