When you’re pregnant and thinking about giving your baby up for adoption, it’s a time when you’re making lots of choices. After you’ve made the choice to pursue adoption, you need to decide what this looks like for you. Here are some of the choices you’ll need to make as you create a plan.
Your Support Network
Who will you call in to support you during this time? Some birth mothers have a family or a partner who can provide support, while others lean on friends. Are there community resources that you can use, such as organizations that provide counseling and health care support to birth mothers? You’ll also need to decide who you’ll work with to complete the adoption. You may choose to work with an adoption agency or with a law firm. Find an agency or firm that is close to the community and can connect you with other resources so that you feel supported during this important time.
Choosing Adoptive Parents
Choosing your child’s adoptive parents is a huge choice and can seem very intimidating. Where do you begin? Your support system can be a great help at this time. You can work with an agency or law firm or friends and family to help find a family who is a good match for your values and the life that you’d like for your child. Make sure that you think about how much contact you’d like with your child as you speak with prospective adoptive families as well, so that you both agree on what your relationship will look like in the future.
Open or Closed Adoption
Many women choose to pursue a form of open adoption, which means that your information and records and information about your child can flow between you and the adoptive parents. Open adoption comes in many forms, and you may choose to visit your child or simply receive updates or be open to information transfer if you, the child, and the adoptive family want this to happen. If you choose open adoption, you will need to determine how much contact you’d like to have between you and the adoptive family. If you pursue closed adoption, you will not have this flow of information between you and your child’s adoptive family.
What Happens in the Hospital?
You’ll also have to decide what will happen on and just after the time when your baby is born. You might want to have the adoptive parents present at the birth, and you might also want your own support person to be present. You may decide to hold and breastfeed your child, or you might decide to have the adoptive parents hold the child first. Whatever your choices, making an adoption plan can help you determine what will happen when you’re in the hospital and for a long time after that.
When you’re thinking of giving your baby up for adoption, you need support. We can provide it. Family Formation is an adoption law firm, and we’re here to help you as you create your adoption plan. Contact us today for a free consultation.
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