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About your medical history

Your medical history can help your child’s adoptive parents support her as she grows.

If you’re considering putting up a child for adoption, you have likely looked at open adoption. While families often had closed adoptions in the past and children may not have known they were adopted, today open adoption is very common. In an open adoption, you and your child’s adoptive parents can communicate and you may decide to be a part of your child’s life as he or she grows up. An open adoption is also helpful for another reason: it allows your child and your child’s family to ask questions about your medical history.

Why Does Your Medical History Matter?

A child’s medical history shouldn’t be a mystery: it’s just so much easier if your child’s family knows as much as possible about their adopted child’s medical history. While not all health problems are genetic, some are, and if you have a disease or disorder that runs in your family, your child should know. Your child also needs to know about the circumstances of your pregnancy and birth. This information can not only help solve minor health questions, it can also help your child receive therapies that are required, determine supports that he might need at school, or even save your child’s life. It will also help your child as he or she grows up and has children.

About your medical history

Providing information about your pregnancy and your child’s birth can add to your child’s medical history.

Important Information About Your Medical History

If you’re giving your child’s adoptive parents information about your medical history, you may use a medical history form that will help you think about all of the potential information needed. The form could be given to your child’s adoptive parents. This includes a history of chronic conditions such as diabetes, information about cancer and other diseases, and information about physical challenges such as club foot. Try to be as detailed as possible, and if you can, ask your own parents for information as well.

If you’re speaking with your child’s adoptive parents, you may want to add information to their knowledge of your medical history. A medical history could also include information about learning disabilities. For example, if you have dyslexia, it could be helpful for your child’s adoptive parents to know this in case your child experiences the same thing.

One of the advantages of open adoption is that you can remain in contact with your child’s birth parents and can update their medical history information as you grow older. If you discover that arthritis runs in your family, you can share that information with your child and/or the birth parents.

Information About the Birth Father’s Medical History

If you are in contact with the birth father, it’s helpful if he can also give information about his own medical history. There may be a place on the forms that you fill out for the birth father’s information. Encourage him to add as much detail as possible.

Information About Your Pregnancy

What happens during your pregnancy can change your child’s medical history. For example, if you used alcohol or drugs before you realized that you were pregnant, this may have an impact on your child’s future health. Disclosing information about your pregnancy might make you feel nervous, but being honest doesn’t mean that adoptive parents will not adopt your child. It simply gives your baby the best opportunity to grow up in an environment where people understand and support his or her medical needs.

Information About Your Child’s Birth

If you’ve decided on adoption after your child is born, the adoptive parents may also be interested in what happened at your child’s birth.

While many births are uncomplicated, it’s important that your child’s adoptive parents know about any difficulties that your child experienced during birth. For example, cerebral palsy is due to brain injuries that a child receives before, during, or right after birth. When adoptive parents know about a difficult birth, they can use this information to help your child.

While disclosing your medical information can seem sensitive or awkward, this information can be a great help to your child’s family. As your child grows up, that information will not only help the adoptive family, it will help your child understand his or her background more thoroughly.

When You’re Considering Adoption, Contact Family Formation:

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When you’re thinking about adoption, you can feel a lot of uncertainty about the future. Questions run through your mind. How will I find adoptive parents? What will my child’s future hold? Sometimes the questions are more specific: I want to put my baby up for adoption, but she has special needs. Whether you have a new baby with special needs or you know that the chances are high that your baby will be born with some extra needs, you can still have a successful adoption.

Will Anyone Adopt My Baby With Special Needs?

Most parents of children with special needs are in that position by chance, and their love helps them work to ensure that they create the best possible present and future for that child. However, some people choose to adopt children with physical or developmental differences. Why would someone choose this path? Sometimes, these parents grew up with a family member with special needs, or they may have other adopted or biological children with that need. Others feel called to work with or adopt children who may experience different challenges than other children. Children with developmental or physical differences or emotional needs can be and are adopted by loving families who want to be their parents.

Choosing Parents for Your Child With Special Needs

Finding adoptive parents for your child can be an emotional journey, and when you know that your child has special needs, this can be even more intense. How do you know if an adoptive family is suitable to parent your child with special needs? Ask questions about their experiences and attitudes toward people with developmental and physical challenges to make sure that you are comfortable with their approach. Talk to prospective adoptive families to see how patient, persistent, and flexible they are. Are they people who can celebrate and see small successes and be grateful for them? Do they have a solid support network of family, friends, and community resources? All of these attributes will help them parent children with special needs.

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Will anyone want to adopt my baby with special needs? (Photo credit: Lane Oatey/Blue Jean Images/Getty Images)

Accommodating the Medical Needs of Your Child

When you’re looking for adoptive parents for your child and you know that your child will need extra support, don’t be afraid to ask about the parents’ ability to manage this support. Do the parents have the time to work with your child to find the best medical care and participate in therapies that will help your child succeed? Do they live close to medical care, or do they plan to relocate? Do they have medical insurance that will help fund this care? Asking these questions can be hard, but it can ease your mind about your child’s future.

When Special Needs Are Uncertain

When you’re having a baby and you’ve been told that your child may have developmental differences, you may not know what the future holds.  It is natural to wonder, “will anyone want to adopt my baby with special needs?”  Even children with defined medical conditions can move along very different paths. While some needs are diagnosed in childhood, other children have needs that are diagnosed later in childhood. From childhood accidents to diabetes and cancer, children’s and families lives change to manage the new needs of their family members. Even if your child does not have a special need right now, it’s always important to consider how adoptive parents might respond to these health crises and conditions as they emerge. When you’re speaking with prospective adoptive parents, ask them questions about how they will be able to support your child’s emerging needs, now and in the future.

Creating an Adoption Plan

During any adoption, it’s important to create an adoption plan. This lays out the plan that you have for your child’s birth and for contact with your child and his adoptive family. Creating an adoption plan that allows you to see updates about your child and visit your child can help ease your mind about your child’s future. When you see how your baby is growing, changing, and finding support, you’ll feel more secure about his future.

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You’re about to work on your greatest assignment yet: how will you juggle being pregnant in college?

Are you pregnant in college? If you’re considering putting a child up for adoption and you’re in school at the same time, this can seem doubly stressful. Your life is full of exams and deadlines, and you’re trying to stay healthy during an unplanned pregnancy as well. If you’re juggling college while you’re pregnant, you’re not alone. Many college students have gone through the same thing. Here’s how to get through college while you’re pregnant.

Reduce Your Load

You’ve just added another very large responsibility to your schedule: you’re creating a new person. This responsibility can seem overwhelming, and to prevent overwhelm, you need to prioritize. Talk with your support system and see if they can help. Can you move in with a friend or a family member for a while? Can you reduce your course load, even if it’s just by a single course? Get serious about your time management. Plan to do your assignments in smaller segments if you can, so that even if you experience morning sickness or tiredness you can get everything done without pulling an all-nighter. Anything you can do to make your life less stressful will help you manage being pregnant in college.


Getting enough rest and good nutrition helps your pregnancy go more smoothly.

Taking Care of Your Health 

College often means late nights and parties as well. For nine months, you’ll need to evaluate all of your choices not only based on the impact they’ll have on you but on the impact they’ll have on your baby. Rather than a night out you may decide that a lunch date is a better choice. You’ll still have a chance to connect with friends and you’ll avoid feeling extra tired the next day. Consider taking a bit more time planning and preparing meals that are healthy, such as green smoothies. If you don’t have the budget for a lot of fruits and vegetables, see if WIC can support you during your pregnancy and help you get the nutrition that you need. Focus on having fun and connecting with friends, but think about how to do this in a way that will keep you healthy while being pregnant in college.

Get Emotional Support

Being pregnant in college can be an emotionally challenging time. You’re probably trying to work, manage living on a small budget, and meet all of the deadlines you need to meet to apply to programs or complete your assignments. If you’re pregnant as well, you need emotional support. Talk to trusted friends and family about your pregnancy and find those who support you in your choices. Find an adoption agency or law firm that can work with you to provide counseling and advice as you take the next steps toward adoption.

Get Logistical and Financial Support

As you look for adoptive parents and think about your child’s future, you may also need help in the present. An adoption agency or law firm can help you with the legal (and other) details of your child’s adoption. They can also forward you to any sources of financial support for pregnant birth mothers and will let you know if the adoptive family is legally allowed to provide financial support while you are pregnant in college.

Look to the Future

Creating an adoption plan will help you look forward to the time when your baby is born. You’ll have more certainty about the future as you plan who will be present at the birth and what kind of interaction you’d like with your child and the adoptive family after your child is born. When you’re having trouble managing everything, an adoption plan can be your portal into the future.

Are you pregnant in college?  At Family Formation, we’re not only lawyers, we’re also birth and adoptive parents.:

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Adoptive family

How can you choose an adoptive parents for your child?

Are you thinking of giving a baby up for adoption? When you are looking at potential adoptive parents who would like to raise your child, you are faced with many different decisions. From their location to their family situation, it can be hard to imagine your child in so many different lives. How can you choose between adoptive families?

Many Different Lives

If you’ve decided to choose adoption, you’re looking for someone else who can support your child as he or she grows to become an adult. You may have a vision of the life that you’d like your child to lead. What does this vision look like? You may think about factors such as the adoptive parents’ location, whether they’re urban or rural, whether your child would have siblings or pets, and what means the family has to support your child. But what’s most important? If you’re feeling stuck, how can you decide who would be the best parent for your child?

Choosing Adoptive Parents Based on Values

There are no perfect parents in the world, but there are certainly parents who are a closer fit with your parenting values. When you’re looking for parents for your child, the most important thing you need to do is to consider how your values and visions fit with theirs. A comfortable fit will make you feel much more secure about your child’s future. Have a conversation with adoptive parents about their spiritual values, their role in the community and in their family, and how they parent or want to parent. What kind of life do they envision for their family? This will tell you a lot about who they are as people, and you can decide if they’re a good fit for your parenting values.

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What support do adoptive parents have to make their parenting values and dreams into reality?

Making Values a Reality

Everyone needs support to be the best parent that they can be. When you’re talking with adoptive parents, ask them what kind of support network they have to make their parenting dreams a reality. If they live in a community where they have friends or grandparents there to lend a hand, if they have a religious community that supports their values and parenting, or if they’re able to attend counseling or parenting groups, they have some support to become the parents they’d like to be. Talk with the adoptive parents about how they want to make their parenting dreams into reality, and make sure that your dreams for your child fit with theirs. When you choose a family based on their parenting values, you know that wherever they live and whatever happens, they will try to parent well according to their particular values.

An Adoption Plan Can Help

An adoption plan can help you watch your child grow over time. Since the adoption plan is shared with the adoptive parents the plan helps ensure that your child’s parents are on the same page about ongoing contact. When you make an adoption plan, you can decide how much contact you’d like and the method of contact. This helps ensure that you can stay in touch with the direction of your child’s life and know that you made the right choice for him or her.

When you’re looking for help as you pursue adoption, contact Family Formation. We work with a small number of birth parents and adoptive families at a time, so we can help you through the process of getting to know the adoptive family, making an adoption plan, and moving through the adoption process.

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When you’re thinking about adoption, what do you need to consider if you’re planning an interracial adoption?

Who are the best possible parents for my child? When you’re thinking of giving up a child for adoption, you consider many different factors and you are likely to consider different adoptive parents. You may have a friend or family member who would love to adopt your child. You might find someone who lives in your community or in a different state who is an excellent match for you. If you’re considering adoptive parents whose race is different from your child’s race, what are some questions that you need to consider? Below are important things to think about before planning an interracial adoption.

Are My Child’s Adoptive Parents Open to New Experiences?

Becoming a parent brings many new experiences to the parents as they learn how to change a diaper or navigate a temper tantrum. One of the new experiences that your child’s parents will need to learn about is how to parent a child of a different race. This might include everyday matters such as hair and skin care or it could include consciously taking steps to make sure that your child knows other people who look like him or her. When you’re looking for adoptive parents in an interracial adoption, make sure that they are open to these new experiences.

Will My Child’s Adoptive Parents Support My Child’s Experience?

Every child has experiences that are different from their parents, and many children also come from racially diverse families even if they are not adopted. Your child’s adoptive parents will need to understand that their child’s experience of race is not the same as their own. Your child may sometimes feel different from other children in his or her community or class, and your child’s adoptive parents need to think about how they will manage this to help your child love, explore, and appreciate the similarities and the differences between themselves and their friends and neighbors. When you’re looking for adoptive parents for your child, look for parents who will work to understand your child’s experience, even if it’s quite different from their own.


Your child’s adoptive parents will help her through many life stages. Can they help her as she learns about her racial and cultural background?

Can My Child’s Adoptive Parents Build a Community?

Your child may have a racial and cultural background that is different from his or her adoptive parents’ background. Every child also has interests and needs that must be supported in different ways. Whether your child is an amazing ice skater or has a beautiful voice, or she is simply seeking racial and cultural connections as a teen, will your child’s adoptive parents be able to help your child build a community of support?

Open Adoption Can Help in an Interracial Adoption

When you make a plan to pursue an open adoption, you know that you have the option to be in your child’s life in a way that makes you feel comfortable. You might choose to receive updates about your child, or you may decide to connect directly with your child and the adoptive family at regular intervals. When you cultivate a connection between you and your child, you can help your child understand his or her family history. This can help you ease your mind and keep the lines of communication open between you and your child’s adoptive family.

Family Formation can help answer your questions about interracial adoption:

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How can you connect with adoptive parents to make sure that they are the best parents for your child?

I want to give my baby up for adoption, and I want to connect with the adoptive parents. When you’re thinking about adoption, you’re thinking about the life you want your child to lead in the future. How will your child’s adoptive family support your child into adulthood? How do you know who is the right choice when you’re choosing adoptive parents for your baby? Reading about and talking to prospective adoptive parents can help you make the decision. Here’s how to break the ice.

Think About What You and Your Child Need

Before you talk with adoptive families, think about what you and your child will need from the adoptive parents. If you want an open adoption and would like to visit your child, be clear about this. If your child will need special medical support or you’d like to have your child raised in a family with similar religious values, make a note of this. What’s really important to you? This will help you connect with adoptive parents who hold the values and have the experiences your child needs, and it will make it easier to break the ice.

Read As Much as You Can

Before you meet prospective adoptive parents, read about adoption and read about the people who would like to adopt your child. They may have a website or a file of information. Read this, and consider how it is or is not a fit with your desires for your child. As you have questions, note them so that you can talk about them with the adoptive parents or with the agency or law firm that you are working with on the adoption.

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Determine what’s most important to you, and make sure you ask prospective adoptive parents these questions to make sure you’re a good fit for each other.

Get Support to Move Through Your Nerves and Worry

You may be worried about what someone might say or think or whether you’re clear about your intentions, you need support. Seek counseling to clarify your thoughts and concerns about adoption, and rally your friends and family members who support the adoption process. They can help you clarify your thoughts as you get to know and connect with your child’s adoptive parents.

Connect with Adoptive Parents in Different Ways

Some people like to talk on the phone, others prefer email or text, and others like an in person conversation. When you’re getting to know prospective adoptive parents or the parents you’ve chosen for your child, see if you can communicate in a way that makes you both feel comfortable. While it’s good to meet and talk, you might find that you prefer Skype to the phone or that you like email better than a phone call. Set up communication methods that will serve you well in the future if you’re pursuing an open adoption.

Ask What You Need to Ask

Sometimes, you may feel nervous because you have a really important question to ask, but you’re afraid to ask it. It might be about how the adoptive parents will incorporate values that are important to you into your child’s life. It might be a question that you feel is not completely appropriate, such as a question about why the adoptive parents have chosen to adopt. When you have these questions in mind, it’s important to think about how to ask, but it’s also important to get the information you need to make you feel comfortable with your decisions. You want to get the answer before you embark on this new relationship, even if it seems a bit awkward at the time.

When you’re looking into the possibility of adoption, contact Family Formation. We’re not only lawyers, we’re also birth and adoptive parents. We know what you’re going through, and we can help you connect with adoptive parents and work through the legal aspects of adoption.

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need an adoption agency

When you choose adoption, how do you know if you need an adoption agency?

Do I need an adoption agency for a successful adoption? When you’re looking for adoption support, where do you turn?  You have options when you’re a birth parent who’s considering domestic adoption.  You don’t have to work with adoption agency if you’re thinking about adoption for your baby.

Working With An Adoption Law Firm

At least half of adoptions do not occur through an agency. Many of these occur through independent adoption. During an independent adoption, you might find adoptive parents through your networks of friends and family, or you could look for adoptive parents who have a website and meet them if they seem like they’d be a good fit.


You can work with an adoption agency, but a law firm can also be a great choice.

Independent adoptions are legal in most states, and in some states the adoption attorney can also help you find adoptive parents for your child. In any independent adoption, the attorney will be there to move you through the legal process of adoption. This includes contacting the birth father and getting his approval for the adoption, following any rules related to your specific adoption situation, and work through home studies and the termination of parental rights.

If you already have an adoptive family in mind or prefer to find adoptive parents yourself, an independent adoption is your most logical choice. If you don’t have an adoptive family in mind, check to see if adoption attorneys can assist with the search in your state.

When you’re considering adoption, think about the process and about your needs before you choose who to support you through this process. If you already have a friend or family member who’d like to adopt your child, you may not need an adoption agency and all of the services it provides. You may also prefer the freedom of an independent adoption, while knowing that you also have legal assistance when you need it.

Do You Need an Adoption Agency?

When you’re looking at adoption as an option for your child, you might consider whether you need an adoption agency. An adoption agency can offer you a number of different kinds of support. The adoption agency will provide you with help such as access to counseling, and depending on what state you are in, the adoptive parents may be able to provide you with additional financial support during your pregnancy. The agency can also help you with your adoption plan, and they have a listing of parents who would love to adopt a child. Some agencies may choose birth parents who meet specific criteria. For adoptive parents, going to an adoption agency can involve more fees than other options.

If you’re thinking about adoption, contact Family Formation:

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As your child grows, how will he feel about being adopted?

Should I give my child up for adoption? What will my child think about being adopted as a child, a teen, or an adult? Imagining your child’s future reaction to adoption can cause you to worry. While adoptees have many emotions and thoughts about being adopted, supportive adoptive parents and birth parents can help them explore and work through their feelings.

Open Adoption Can Help

In past decades, people who were adopted often did not know that they were adopted for a very long time, if at all. Their adoption was a family secret. This meant that as children, they didn’t grow up understanding and appreciating adoption.  They also didn’t they get to know their birth parents. This air of secrecy sometimes led children to feel like their adoption was something that needed to be hidden.

Today, most adoptions are open adoptions. This means that adoptees know that they are adopted and have access to their biological family’s medical history. Birth parents can receive letters from the family and even visit with their adopted child and the adoptive family. This openness reduces some of the mystery around adoption which helps an adoptee become comfortable with the adoption.

Choosing Supportive Adoptive Parents

Adoptees may want to connect with their biological family, racial, or cultural history, especially as they grow into teens and adults. This is part of exploring who they are and understanding themselves as unique individuals. When you’re looking for adoptive parents and making an adoption plan, make sure that you choose parents who can support this exploration if that’s important to you. Whether it’s finding a cultural community or maintaining connections with you and other members of your child’s birth family, choose adoptive parents who can support your child’s explorations of race, culture, and family history.


Older children may start exploring how they are different from others, and this includes being adopted.

Your Child May Not Know How to Feel About Being Adopted

Children can feel unhappy about their adoption, just as they can feel unhappy about many other aspects of their life. As children grow, they learn about what makes them and their family different. Some children are only children, some are biracial, and some have glasses. Sometimes children relish these differences, and sometimes they feel awkward about them. Your child’s adoptive parents can help your child work through this time of uncertainty and come to see that you and your adoptive parents made a choice that was good for your child.

When you’re thinking about adoption, contact Family Formation:

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Help during pregnancy

Counseling during an unplanned pregnancy can help you with worries about your baby’s future.

When you are managing an unplanned pregnancy, worried, and considering giving your baby up for adoption, it can seem like no one’s on your side. How can you get answers to the many questions you have about your options? Who can support you? When you’re looking for answers, connecting with an adoption agency or law firm can help you get the support you need.

Answering Questions During An Unplanned Pregnancy

When you’re thinking about adoption but you haven’t decided yet, you might be worried about going to an adoption agency or adoption law firm. Will they try to convince you to adopt? When you’re looking at adoption professionals, look online and talk with others who’ve used their services. Choose an organization that is personable, community-oriented, and supportive of your many questions. If possible, seek out an agency or law firm that has employees who’ve experienced adoption firsthand, so that they understand the emotional intensity of your experience.

Talking it Through

Once you choose an adoption agency or law firm, you’ll have access to pre-adoption counseling services. Use these services to help yourself answer unresolved questions and think about the future you’d like to see for your child. Talk about your worries and concerns. When you’re worried about your unplanned pregnancy, you may put on a strong face much of the time. When you go to a counselor, this is a time to let out some of those concerns and talk them through in a supportive environment.

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Your child’s adoptive parents may be different from you, but they will love your child.

Finding Adoptive Parents

When you’re looking for adoptive parents for your child, where do you begin? This is where an adoption agency or law firm can be very helpful. If you already have adoptive parents for your child, a law firm can help you formalize this by pursuing an independent adoption. If you haven’t found adoptive parents, an agency or law firm likely has prospective parents who might be a match for you.

Creating an Adoption Plan

As you move along in the adoption process, you’ll need to make an adoption plan. This plan outlines what you’d like to see at your child’s birth and far beyond. What kind of contact would you like to have with your child in the future? Your adoption agency or law firm can help you with questions you might have about closed and open adoption and different options during the birth and in the future.

When you’re looking for help during an unplanned pregnancy, contact Family Formation. We can help you consider whether adoption is right for you:

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Adoptive family

What would you like your child’s life to be like? From siblings to location to parenting values, you have a lot to considering an adoptive family.

When you’re thinking of putting a child up for adoption, you need to find an adoptive family for your child. This can be a straightforward decision if you have friends or family who’d love to adopt, or you may need to look through profiles of adoptive families to find the right parents for your child. Whether you’re thinking about family members or looking at a prospective adoptive family’s website, what should you look for in an adoptive family?

The Life You Envision for Your Child

When you’re thinking about your child’s future life, what do you see? Does your child have many siblings, or none at all? Does your child live on a farm surrounded by animals, or in the middle of a city with many different educational opportunities? What hobbies does your child’s family enjoy together? Think about the life you envision for your child, but remember to be open-minded. There are no perfect families or perfect parents, and you may surprise yourself by choosing a family whose values echo yours but who lives in a different place than you might have envisioned for your child.

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Ask prospective adoptive parents about their values as parents.

Finding a Match With Your Parenting Values

Values are very important, and it’s good to look for adoptive parents whose parenting values echo your own. If you haven’t been a parent before, think about your own childhood and what you might change or keep. Consider how you see yourself as a current or future parent. What’s most important to you? You don’t need to subscribe to a particular philosophy, but when you’re speaking with prospective adoptive parents it’s helpful to think about what you value.

Finding a Match With Your Religious Values

For some people, religious or spiritual values are very important. If you follow a particular religion, you may want to make sure that your child grows up in this religion as well. Whether you’re religious or not, think about the ethics that you want your child to grow up with as well. How do your child’s prospective adoptive parents live and express these ethics in their lives?

Understanding the Adoptive Family

While values are important, the parents’ personalities will determine how they act on their values. Get to know prospective adoptive parents as people. Try to pause for a little while and enjoy each others’ company. Some people are very relaxed while others are goal-driven. Some have a corny sense of humor, and some are sentimental. Get to know prospective adoptive parents so that you’ll have a feel for who they are as people, because this will shape who they are as parents.

Making an Adoption Plan

Making an adoption plan can help you clarify what kind of future relationship you’d like to have with your child’s adoptive family. An adoption plan can outline everything from what happens in the delivery room to what happens as your child grows to adulthood. Creating this plan can help you clarify what you’d like to see and what you value.

Family Formation is an adoption law firm, and we are devoted to working with birth mothers and families who are pursuing adoption. Contact us today, and we’ll help answer your questions about adoption.

When you’re thinking of putting a child up for adoption, we’re here to help.

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