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If you have decided to put your baby up for adoption, you will go through a process called adoption counseling. This article explains what that process may be like.

Find the Right Help

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Healthy birth mommies make healthy babies, so look for a firm or agency willing to put your health and well-being as top priority.

When you are considering adoption for your baby, you might think an adoption agency is your only choice, but that isn’t so. There are law firms that specialize in handling adoptions, and for many women this is a better option. Family Formation, for example, was founded by a birthmother just like you. Family Formation handles just a small number of adoptions at a time, unlike the larger adoption agencies where it’s easy to get lost in the crowd. If you aren’t comfortable with the agency or law firm when you contact them, don’t hesitate to move on and find one that is easy to talk to and gives you the time and attention you deserve.

Discuss Your Prenatal Needs & Care

The first consideration of any agency or firm should be your health and well-being, because your health has a direct impact on the health of your baby. There are no set standards for adoption counseling, so it varies considerably between agencies and law firms. However, you should be told up front what to expect. How many counseling sessions will you receive? What help will they offer you? When it comes to planning the adoption, what options do you have? Reputable adoption agencies and law firms will discuss all of your options, including your right to keep your baby if you choose.

Develop an Adoption Plan

Once you and your counselor are confident that adoption is the right decision for you, you two will need to develop an adoption plan. This plan includes what you want to look for in potential adoptive parents and what, if any, contact you will want to have with the adoptive parents and your baby in the future. This is an important time, and the adoption plan you make now will be your guide for many years to come, so take your time and don’t rush this vital process.

Get Your Questions Answered

During the adoption counseling and as you set up your plan for prenatal care and adoption, make sure your questions are answered. Don’t be afraid or embarrassed to ask anything that happens to be on your mind. The decisions you are making now will determine your future and your baby’s future, so ask questions until you get the answers you need to be confident and satisfied that you’re making the right calls.

Select the Adoptive Family

After the adoption plan is in place, it’s time to begin the search for your baby’s new family. This is an exciting time, because you are getting to exercise your rights as birthmother and make the best possible choice for who is going to raise your baby. Do you want a young, ambitious couple or an older, established couple? Do you lean toward the driven, career types or the relaxed, easy-go-lucky folks? Unlike most people, you get to choose who you believe has the best parenting style and lifestyle to raise a happy, well-adjusted little person.

After-Adoption Care

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As a birth mom, you are in a unique position to get to hand pick your baby’s parents and the lifestyle he or she will be raised in.

Make sure the agency or law firm you choose gives you information on what happens after the adoption. Your adoption plan will outline what you desire in terms of contact with your baby and their adoptive family. Some after-adoption care also includes post-natal care for you, too. Be sure you understand this part before you choose an agency or law firm to handle your adoption.

Are you looking for someone to handle your baby’s adoption process? Contact us. We have been in your place and know what birthmothers like you are going through. We can help you through the entire process. You can get started on your adoption counseling today!

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Home study

A home study helps adoptive families think about what kind of adoption they want to pursue.

When you’re considering adoption, you know that there are a number of steps that you need to go through to complete that adoption. You need to find adoptive parents who are a match for your values, think about your child’s needs and the birth, and make an adoption plan to see you into the future. While you’re considering all of this, your child’s prospective adoptive parents are busy too. One step that they need to go through is the home study. What is a home study and why does it matter to you?

What is a Home Study?

When an individual or a couple wishes to become adoptive parents, they need to participate in a home study. They might be working through an adoption agency or an adoption law firm, but they all need to go through the home study process. The process involves education and gathering information about the prospective parents, including background checks and fingerprinting. It often involves orientation meetings, adoption coursework, and meetings in the parents’ home. On average, the process takes between two to three months to complete.

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Home studies can help you ensure that there’s a match by clarifying information about the adoptive family.

Why Home Studies Exist

A home study has several purposes. It’s an opportunity for an agency or other organization to provide information and look at each family’s interests and needs. Some families may want to pursue international adoption, some might be interested in adopting foster children, and others might want to adopt an infant. An adoption home study can help clarify what type of adoption and what sorts of needs a family is willing to consider. This is important as it helps ensure that each family makes the choices that is right for them.

The study also helps the agency or law firm understand the parents well so that they can all ensure that they make the best possible match between the birth family and the adoptive family. During the home study, adoptive parents will be asked questions about their reasons for adopting, their expectations, their family and personal histories, their parenting, their income and education, and their physical and home environments. All of these factors help make a good match between the birth family and the adoptive family. For example, a home study can pinpoint a family who’s keen to parent a child with extra needs and has the physical location, income, and family to support this.

Who Needs a Home Study?

In general, prospective adoptive parents need to have a home study. However, if you are considering adoption with a relative, your relative may not need to complete a home study that is as intensive or as long as those required for non-relative adoptions. However, this varies from state to state. Your relative can check with an adoption attorney or agency to determine whether or not their family needs to participate in a full home study process.

When you’re thinking about adoption, we’re here to help. Family Formation is not just a law firm: we’re adoptive parents and birth parents ourselves. We can help you as you navigate the unfamiliar world of adoption so that you can find an adoptive family for your child. Contact us today.

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family adoption

Sometimes you know that you want to do a family adoption. What’s next?

Is a family adoption possible for my child?  Whether you’d like immediate family to adopt your child or you’d like a more distant relative to become your child’s adoptive family, relative adoption is both similar and different from non-relative adoption. This article provides more information on how a family member can adopt your child.

Is Family the Best Choice?

If you’re thinking about adoption, you need to think about whether relative adoption is the right choice for you. You may have family members who would love to adopt but who have very different values or may not be able to support your child in the ways that you’d like to have your child supported. You may consider family adoption but feel that you’d like to separate family and adoption and have your child become part of a different family.

Family adoption will change your relationship with the adoptive family, since they will now be the parents of your child as well as your relatives. Before you pursue relative adoption or non-relative adoption, think about what is the best fit for you and your child now and in the future.

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Whoever you choose, find a family who fits your parenting values.

Choosing the Right Family Member

Once you’ve decided that family adoption is for you, you face a process that’s similar to the one you’d go through in any other adoption. In any adoption, you need to think about choosing the family that’s the right fit for you and your child. Think about what you value as a parent and what you valued in your childhood. What kind of childhood do you want your child to have? Do you want your child to have siblings, live in a rural area, or have parents with particular religious beliefs? Everyone is different and whether you’re looking at the profiles of adoptive parents online or you’re talking with family and friends, you need to consider how their values will mesh with your own.

The Process of Family Adoption

When it comes to adoption law, some aspects of relative adoption are different from an adoption by a family who’s unrelated to your child. For example, a relative may or may not be required to complete a home study, a process that looks at the adoptive parents’ home life, family support, education, income, interests, and values. This process varies from state to state. Some states require a full or abbreviated home study for relatives, while others do not.

Other parts of the adoption process are similar to any other adoption. No matter what kind of adoption you pursue, you will need to terminate your parental rights so that the adoptive family can become the parents of your child.

An Adoption Law Firm Can Help

If you’ve chosen family adoption, you may not need to go to an adoption agency. An adoption attorney can help you work with the adoptive family to ensure that you can ask questions, get help creating an adoption plan, and comply with state laws regarding adoption.

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Parental rights

When both birth parents are able to make the adoption decision together, this makes the adoption process smoother. However, adoption can take place even if the birth father is unknown.

Are you considering adoption? While the concept of adoption is fairly simple, the language around adoption can seem complex. When you’re a birth parent who’s starting on the journey to adoption, you have many questions. What’s an adoption plan? What is finalizing an adoption? What are parental rights? An adoption agency or law firm can help you work through the legalities of adoption so that you can find the best adoptive family for your child.

Parental rights

As a birth parent, you have the right to make decisions for your child.

What Are Parental Rights?

When you’re considering adoption, one of the phrases you’ll run into is the phrase “parental rights” or “termination of parental rights.” What does this phrase mean? When you’re pregnant and making an adoption plan, you are the birth parent. As the biological parent of your child, you have the right to make decisions for and act on behalf of your child. For example, parents seek out support and make decisions for their child if that child needs medical care. When you are planning for adoption, the adoptive family will become the legal parents of your biological child. This means that you need to voluntarily end your parental rights.

This termination or end of your parental rights does not happen immediately when your child is born. You will have some time to consider this decision before you sign the termination of parental rights. This time varies from state to state.

What About the Birth Father?

Can the birth father claim parental rights? This is a question that many people have before the adoption proceeds. A birth father may have parental rights, and if he chooses to assert them the process to do so varies from state to state. If it is possible to find the birth father, adoption agencies and law firms follow procedures to ensure that birth fathers are aware of the adoption plans and know their rights. If the birth father knows about the adoption, agrees to it, and signs legal papers to consent, he can’t contest the adoption unless there was fraud or duress.

Laws Vary From State to State

When you’re looking into adoption, there is a lot of information out there. You may have friends or family members who’ve experienced the adoption process, or you may visit websites or online communities where people share stories about adoption. It’s important to realize that adoption laws can vary from state to state. The support you receive and the laws you need to follow will be different depending on the place where you live and the family you choose to adopt your baby. That’s why it’s important to choose an adoption agency or law firm that has extensive experience working in your area. When you’re looking at adoption, get recommendations from those who are local to your area so that you can find the right agency or law firm to help you through the legal aspects of adoption.

When you’re looking for answers about adoption, Family Formation can help. We’re an adoption law firm, and we’ve helped many birth parents and adoptive parents finalize their successful adoptions.

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Adoptive parents

Families may adopt a child for many reasons, but they all adopt because they want to love a new member of their family.

Why would a family choose to adopt a child? When you’re thinking about how to put a child up for adoption, you might wonder what motivates adoptive parents. Who are the people behind the faces, and why are they considering adoption? Here are some of the reasons why adoptive families choose to adopt a child.

They Love Children But Can’t Have Children

Many adoptive parents love children and always envisioned themselves as parents. They may not be able to have children of their own, due to infertility or disability. In any case, they want to have the family that they’ve dreamed of and they have set up their lives to do this.

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Some parents choose to adopt because they have medical conditions that make it hard to have children, but they would love to have a child.

Medical Conditions Make it Hard to Have Children

Some parents may be able to have children, but they know that they have a genetic disorder that runs in their family. For this reason, they may choose to adopt rather than have a child. Other parents may have medical conditions of their own that makes it challenging to carry a child, and this might pose health difficulties for the mother. For this reason, they decide to adopt child instead.

They See Adoption as an Ethical Choice

For some people, adoption is their favorite option for ethical or environmental reasons. They know that children need homes, and they prefer to adopt to add to their family. They may have biological children already or they may choose to adopt a child instead of having biological children.

To Adopt A Child Opens the Door to Parenthood

Sometimes, single parents want to make their long-held desire for a family come true. They have the means to do this, and they choose to adopt since they don’t have a partner. Other families are same-sex families who choose adoption as an alternative to surrogacy. For these families, adoption opens up the possibility of parenthood.

They Want to Give a Child Opportunities

Some families have a particular interest in adopting a child who has special needs. They might have a background in education or have a family member or child who has special needs. They may be a member of the deaf or blind community and want to ensure that a child with these differences has the opportunity to be part of a family. These adoptive parents want to give that child the opportunity to have the support that the child needs to grow up happy and healthy.

Talking With Adoptive Parents

As you look for adoptive parents, you want to ask them many things. You want to talk about how they will parent, where your child will live, and what kind of life your child could have. It might seem awkward to ask adoptive parents why they are pursuing adoption. Sometimes the adoptive parents will let you know in the information that they provide to birth parents. You can also ask adoptive parents questions about adoption. For example, you could ask them what drew them to adoption or what experience they have with adoption in their family. This can help you understand more about your child’s prospective adoptive parents.

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Adoption plan

When you’re in the middle of a difficult pregnancy, it can be hard to think about the future.

Are you thinking of putting a child up for adoption? This can be a hard choice at the best of times, but if you’re having a difficult pregnancy, the process of adoption can seem overwhelming. While many pregnancies go smoothly, sometimes there are medical complications or other complications in your life that make it hard to find adoptive parents and make an adoption plan.

Choosing an Agency or a Law Firm

When you’re having a difficult pregnancy, you may be on bed rest or have to be very careful about planning your activities. Luckily, many adoption agencies and adoption law firms have websites that can tell you about their organization. Think about what support you need as you juggle a difficult pregnancy and navigate adoption. As you look through their sites, find their contact information and call them to learn more about their organization and how they can support you during the adoption process.

Finding Adoptive Parents

If you need to limit your physical activities, it can be harder to find and talk with adoptive parents. When you talk with the adoption agency or law firm, discuss their process for helping you connect with adoptive parents. Can you look at parents’ profiles online? Can you connect with prospective adoptive parents by phone, Skype, or email? Technology can help you make the connections you need so that you can start the process of finding adoptive parents for your child.

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How can you find loving parents for your child when you’re on bed rest or having other difficulties?

Getting Support During A Difficult Pregnancy

When you are experiencing a difficult pregnancy, what support can your adoption agency or law firm provide? Make sure that whoever you work with is flexible and able to answer questions over the phone. Talk with your agency or law firm about accessing counseling about your adoption. In some states, once you have chosen a family for your child, you may be able to receive support from the adoptive family. Finding an agency or law firm that works with a small number of people and really focuses on the needs of those individuals will ensure that you will get the support you need during this time.

Planning for the Future

While a difficult pregnancy can seem overwhelming, you also need to plan for the future. Ultimately, your child will be born, and you will need to have an adoption plan that outlines your hopes and dreams for future contact. Creating a plan for the birth and for your contact with your child isn’t just one more thing to do during a difficult pregnancy: it’s your way of planning for the future. When your pregnancy is hard, looking toward the future can help you focus on the positive and on happy endings.

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Adoptions

In a multiracial adoption, how can you choose a family who will help your child learn about her cultural heritage?

If you’re thinking about choosing adoptive parents who are not of the same race and culture as you are, how can you make sure that your child’s adoptive parents will help maintain cultural connections in a multiracial adoption?  When you’re thinking about giving a child up for adoption, you consider your child’s future deeply. Who will raise your child, and what will they be like? Will they hold your parenting values and be able to support your child as he or she grows into adulthood? If you’re considering many different adoptive parents, some may be of the same race and culture as you, and some may not.

Think About What’s Important

When you think about your child’s future, what’s most important to you? Of course, you want kind and supportive parents who can give your child opportunities. Think about your child’s cultural connections as well. Is it most important to you that your child live in a community where there are cultural events that he or she can enjoy and where your child can have role models who are from your family background? Is it important that your child grow up in a family that has similar religious or parenting values to your own? Consider what aspects of your culture you would pass onto your child, and be prepared to look for adoptive parents who will provide this environment for your child.

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Talk to prospective adoptive parents about your questions as you create your adoption plan.

Bring Up Your Questions In A Multiracial Adoption

It can seem awkward to bring up questions about race and culture in a multiracial adoption.  If you’re worried or simply want to make sure that this is part of your child’s life, talk about this when you meet prospective adoptive parents. Make your values clear so that they know that this is something that is very important to you.

Talk About Parenting Values

When you’re looking for adoptive parents for your child, you can look for people who can provide your child with specific experiences. However, one of the most important things to look for is open-mindedness and the ability to support your child in his or her explorations. An adoptive parent of a child who has a different racial background from his or her own will need an open mind, a willingness to build community, an ability to have dialogue with your child and others, and an inclination to support your child through new and different experiences.

Open Adoption Keeps the Connection

Years ago, children who were adopted often had no contact with their birth parents, and they may not have had strong cultural connections with their parents’ culture. If you’re seeking an open adoption, you have the opportunity to expose your child to your culture and your family. You’ll have the ability to answer questions and help your child and your child’s adoptive family find answers. Seeking an open adoption helps maintain family and cultural connections.

We’re open to your questions, and we’ve been there too. We’re birth parents and adoptive parents ourselves. Contact us today to see how we can help you explore the possibilities of adoption.

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About your medical history

Your medical history can help your child’s adoptive parents support her as she grows.

If you’re considering putting up a child for adoption, you have likely looked at open adoption. While families often had closed adoptions in the past and children may not have known they were adopted, today open adoption is very common. In an open adoption, you and your child’s adoptive parents can communicate and you may decide to be a part of your child’s life as he or she grows up. An open adoption is also helpful for another reason: it allows your child and your child’s family to ask questions about your medical history.

Why Does Your Medical History Matter?

A child’s medical history shouldn’t be a mystery: it’s just so much easier if your child’s family knows as much as possible about their adopted child’s medical history. While not all health problems are genetic, some are, and if you have a disease or disorder that runs in your family, your child should know. Your child also needs to know about the circumstances of your pregnancy and birth. This information can not only help solve minor health questions, it can also help your child receive therapies that are required, determine supports that he might need at school, or even save your child’s life. It will also help your child as he or she grows up and has children.

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Providing information about your pregnancy and your child’s birth can add to your child’s medical history.

Important Information About Your Medical History

If you’re giving your child’s adoptive parents information about your medical history, you may use a medical history form that will help you think about all of the potential information needed. The form could be given to your child’s adoptive parents. This includes a history of chronic conditions such as diabetes, information about cancer and other diseases, and information about physical challenges such as club foot. Try to be as detailed as possible, and if you can, ask your own parents for information as well.

If you’re speaking with your child’s adoptive parents, you may want to add information to their knowledge of your medical history. A medical history could also include information about learning disabilities. For example, if you have dyslexia, it could be helpful for your child’s adoptive parents to know this in case your child experiences the same thing.

One of the advantages of open adoption is that you can remain in contact with your child’s birth parents and can update their medical history information as you grow older. If you discover that arthritis runs in your family, you can share that information with your child and/or the birth parents.

Information About the Birth Father’s Medical History

If you are in contact with the birth father, it’s helpful if he can also give information about his own medical history. There may be a place on the forms that you fill out for the birth father’s information. Encourage him to add as much detail as possible.

Information About Your Pregnancy

What happens during your pregnancy can change your child’s medical history. For example, if you used alcohol or drugs before you realized that you were pregnant, this may have an impact on your child’s future health. Disclosing information about your pregnancy might make you feel nervous, but being honest doesn’t mean that adoptive parents will not adopt your child. It simply gives your baby the best opportunity to grow up in an environment where people understand and support his or her medical needs.

Information About Your Child’s Birth

If you’ve decided on adoption after your child is born, the adoptive parents may also be interested in what happened at your child’s birth.

While many births are uncomplicated, it’s important that your child’s adoptive parents know about any difficulties that your child experienced during birth. For example, cerebral palsy is due to brain injuries that a child receives before, during, or right after birth. When adoptive parents know about a difficult birth, they can use this information to help your child.

While disclosing your medical information can seem sensitive or awkward, this information can be a great help to your child’s family. As your child grows up, that information will not only help the adoptive family, it will help your child understand his or her background more thoroughly.

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When you’re thinking about adoption, you can feel a lot of uncertainty about the future. Questions run through your mind. How will I find adoptive parents? What will my child’s future hold? Sometimes the questions are more specific: I want to put my baby up for adoption, but she has special needs. Whether you have a new baby with special needs or you know that the chances are high that your baby will be born with some extra needs, you can still have a successful adoption.

Will Anyone Adopt My Baby With Special Needs?

Most parents of children with special needs are in that position by chance, and their love helps them work to ensure that they create the best possible present and future for that child. However, some people choose to adopt children with physical or developmental differences. Why would someone choose this path? Sometimes, these parents grew up with a family member with special needs, or they may have other adopted or biological children with that need. Others feel called to work with or adopt children who may experience different challenges than other children. Children with developmental or physical differences or emotional needs can be and are adopted by loving families who want to be their parents.

Choosing Parents for Your Child With Special Needs

Finding adoptive parents for your child can be an emotional journey, and when you know that your child has special needs, this can be even more intense. How do you know if an adoptive family is suitable to parent your child with special needs? Ask questions about their experiences and attitudes toward people with developmental and physical challenges to make sure that you are comfortable with their approach. Talk to prospective adoptive families to see how patient, persistent, and flexible they are. Are they people who can celebrate and see small successes and be grateful for them? Do they have a solid support network of family, friends, and community resources? All of these attributes will help them parent children with special needs.

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Will anyone want to adopt my baby with special needs? (Photo credit: Lane Oatey/Blue Jean Images/Getty Images)

Accommodating the Medical Needs of Your Child

When you’re looking for adoptive parents for your child and you know that your child will need extra support, don’t be afraid to ask about the parents’ ability to manage this support. Do the parents have the time to work with your child to find the best medical care and participate in therapies that will help your child succeed? Do they live close to medical care, or do they plan to relocate? Do they have medical insurance that will help fund this care? Asking these questions can be hard, but it can ease your mind about your child’s future.

When Special Needs Are Uncertain

When you’re having a baby and you’ve been told that your child may have developmental differences, you may not know what the future holds.  It is natural to wonder, “will anyone want to adopt my baby with special needs?”  Even children with defined medical conditions can move along very different paths. While some needs are diagnosed in childhood, other children have needs that are diagnosed later in childhood. From childhood accidents to diabetes and cancer, children’s and families lives change to manage the new needs of their family members. Even if your child does not have a special need right now, it’s always important to consider how adoptive parents might respond to these health crises and conditions as they emerge. When you’re speaking with prospective adoptive parents, ask them questions about how they will be able to support your child’s emerging needs, now and in the future.

Creating an Adoption Plan

During any adoption, it’s important to create an adoption plan. This lays out the plan that you have for your child’s birth and for contact with your child and his adoptive family. Creating an adoption plan that allows you to see updates about your child and visit your child can help ease your mind about your child’s future. When you see how your baby is growing, changing, and finding support, you’ll feel more secure about his future.

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Pregnant

You’re about to work on your greatest assignment yet: how will you juggle being pregnant in college?

Are you pregnant in college? If you’re considering putting a child up for adoption and you’re in school at the same time, this can seem doubly stressful. Your life is full of exams and deadlines, and you’re trying to stay healthy during an unplanned pregnancy as well. If you’re juggling college while you’re pregnant, you’re not alone. Many college students have gone through the same thing. Here’s how to get through college while you’re pregnant.

Reduce Your Load

You’ve just added another very large responsibility to your schedule: you’re creating a new person. This responsibility can seem overwhelming, and to prevent overwhelm, you need to prioritize. Talk with your support system and see if they can help. Can you move in with a friend or a family member for a while? Can you reduce your course load, even if it’s just by a single course? Get serious about your time management. Plan to do your assignments in smaller segments if you can, so that even if you experience morning sickness or tiredness you can get everything done without pulling an all-nighter. Anything you can do to make your life less stressful will help you manage being pregnant in college.

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Getting enough rest and good nutrition helps your pregnancy go more smoothly.

Taking Care of Your Health 

College often means late nights and parties as well. For nine months, you’ll need to evaluate all of your choices not only based on the impact they’ll have on you but on the impact they’ll have on your baby. Rather than a night out you may decide that a lunch date is a better choice. You’ll still have a chance to connect with friends and you’ll avoid feeling extra tired the next day. Consider taking a bit more time planning and preparing meals that are healthy, such as green smoothies. If you don’t have the budget for a lot of fruits and vegetables, see if WIC can support you during your pregnancy and help you get the nutrition that you need. Focus on having fun and connecting with friends, but think about how to do this in a way that will keep you healthy while being pregnant in college.

Get Emotional Support

Being pregnant in college can be an emotionally challenging time. You’re probably trying to work, manage living on a small budget, and meet all of the deadlines you need to meet to apply to programs or complete your assignments. If you’re pregnant as well, you need emotional support. Talk to trusted friends and family about your pregnancy and find those who support you in your choices. Find an adoption agency or law firm that can work with you to provide counseling and advice as you take the next steps toward adoption.

Get Logistical and Financial Support

As you look for adoptive parents and think about your child’s future, you may also need help in the present. An adoption agency or law firm can help you with the legal (and other) details of your child’s adoption. They can also forward you to any sources of financial support for pregnant birth mothers and will let you know if the adoptive family is legally allowed to provide financial support while you are pregnant in college.

Look to the Future

Creating an adoption plan will help you look forward to the time when your baby is born. You’ll have more certainty about the future as you plan who will be present at the birth and what kind of interaction you’d like with your child and the adoptive family after your child is born. When you’re having trouble managing everything, an adoption plan can be your portal into the future.

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