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Adoptive parents

When you’re looking for adoptive parents for your child, asking questions about their childhoods can help break the ice.

When you’re considering adoption, one of the hardest choices you will make is choosing your child’s adoptive parents. While some birthmothers know a family member or friend who would like to adopt their child, many others find someone else who would like to adopt their child. After you have a list of prospective adoptive parents, here are some questions you can ask to help you find the right parents for your child.

Why Do You Want to Adopt?

Adoption is not something that adoptive parents enter into lightly. Ask them about their adoption journey and how they got to the place they are in right now.

What Were the Best Parts of Your Childhood?

Ask the adoptive parents to tell you about what they valued in their childhood. This not only helps you understand what’s important to them, it also helps you see what they value.

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Ask adoptive parents about their values to ensure that they are similar to your own.

What Are the Most Important Things You Want to do as a Parent?

Everyone has a vision of what kind of parent they’d like to be. When you ask this question, you’ll get information about adoptive parents’ parenting values and about some of the experiences that they truly value in their own lives.

Tell Me About Who You Are Together

When you’re talking with adoptive parents who are a couple, you want to ask questions about who they are as a couple as well as who they are as parents. How did they meet? What do they enjoy doing together? How have they worked through hard times in their lives? This will tell you how they’ll work together as a parenting team.

Who is in Your Support Network?

Every parent needs support. Whether adoptive parents have a wide circle of friends, many family members close by, or they have a religious or other support system that they turn to in times of need, you need to know who will support them and your child when challenging times arise.

What is Your Life Like Now, and What Are Your Plans for the Future?

This question helps you envision what your child’s life could look like. Do the parents work? Does one stay at home? Where do they live? Do they have other children? These factors will very much shape your child’s life.

How Do You Feel About Open Adoption?

If you’ve chosen open adoption and you have an idea of how you’d like it to proceed, ask the prospective adoptive parents questions to ensure that you’ll both be comfortable with what’s in your adoption plan.

When you’re asking questions, remember that no one will be perfect. Your job is to find the parents who best match your values and intentions and who are willing to work with you as you create an adoption plan for your child. When you’re considering adoption, contact Family Formation for a free consultation. We’ll help answer your questions about adoption so that you’ll be better prepared to talk with prospective adoptive parents.

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In an open adoption, you choose how much contact you’d like to have with your child’s adoptive family.

Is adoption right for me? Many an uncertain birth mother has considered these words as she debates whether she’d like to create an adoption plan. While closed adoptions were common in past decades, open adoptions have become much more common in recent years. What does an open adoption look like in real life? It’s less intimidating and more diverse than you might think.

The History of Open Adoption

For many decades from the early 1900s onward, closed adoption was the most common type of adoption. In a closed adoption, the birth parents’ information is sealed and is not available to the adoptee. Over time, many adoptees began to search for their birth parents. Motivated by an interest in their medical, genetic, cultural, and family history, they tried to understand where they’d come from. In the 1970s, 1980s, and beyond, open adoption has become more common as people now realize that if possible, it’s important for adoptees to have contact with their birth family.

What is Open Adoption?

When you think of open adoption, what do you see? You might think that you’ll need to meet with your child frequently and have a relationship with the adoptive parents. If you’ve decided not to have contact with the birth father, you might worry that your child will try to find their birth father.

Open adoption is actually much more diverse than many people believe. In essence, an option adoption keeps the lines of communication open between you, your child, and the adoptive family. It’s a way of ensuring that your child has the ability to learn about his or her past and connect with you if you are both interested.

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In an open adoption, you have the option of meeting with your child, but you can also choose to receive photos or have other forms of contact with the adoptive family.

What Does Open Adoption Look Like in Real Life?

In real life, open adoption looks different for every family. Some birth mothers might choose to keep the lines of communication open, but they aren’t able to meet with the family on an ongoing basis or may not choose to do so. Others choose to get information about their child over time. Photos and email updates can help a birth mother keep track of what’s going on in her child’s life. Other birth mothers choose to stay very involved. A birth mother might meet regularly with the adoptive family and child and provide information and insights to the adoptive family.

Any of these options is an open adoption, and none of them are mandatory. What open adoption looks like is unique to each birth mother and adoptive family, and it’s important to consider what you’d like your own relationship to look like. Is one option better than the other? The option that works well for you and the adoptive family is your best option, and it’s up to you to define what open adoption looks like for you.

Creating an Adoption Plan

When you’re thinking about open adoption, it’s important to create an adoption plan. An adoption plan is not only a plan for your pregnancy and birth, it’s also a plan for what happens after. Would you like to have ongoing visits with your child, or would you prefer to see photographs? Any of these questions about the future can be placed into your adoption plan. You can use this plan as you choose or meet with prospective adoptive parents so that you can choose adoptive parents who are comfortable with your plans for the future.

When you’re considering open adoption, contact Family Formation. We’re an adoption law firm, and we can help answer your questions about adoption. We’ll help you create an adoption plan that works for you.

Images Courtesy of Family Formation: Client photos printed with permission.

Pregnant teen

When you’re the parent of a pregnant teen you can be a strong force in your daughter’s life by supporting her choice to make an adoption plan.

My daughter is pregnant. When those words run through your head, you feel a whole range of emotions. You may feel angry, sad, or panicked. You may feel proud of the way she’s handling it and the way she told you. When you’re the parent of a pregnant teen, here’s how you can help.

Listen to Her Needs and Offer Support

When your daughter first comes to you with the news that she’s pregnant, you may react calmly or you may not. However you reacted at first, approach your future interactions with the maturity that you need to bring as your daughter’s parent. Listen to her feelings and her needs, and offer support. She is experiencing a huge range of emotions right now, and she needs a listening ear.

Show Empathy and Respect

Right now, you daughter needs you to support her emotional needs and respect her choices. Once she’s decided to make an adoption plan, she needs you to show empathy for her and her choice. While you can express your thoughts, ask for hers as well and help her design her future. Help her design her present as well. Give her time to go out with friends and support the everyday life that she wants to continue during this time of change.

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Learn about your daughter’s wishes for the pregnancy, birth, and her relationship with her child in the future.

Help Her Make Plans

As your daughter’s advocate and support person at this time, you can help her make plans. One plan she’ll need to make is her adoption plan. She’ll need to consider who she’d like to choose as adoptive parents and what they’ll be like. She’ll need to think about the birth and about her choices after birth. Does she want an open adoption? Would she like to see her child in the future? All of these choices need to become part of her adoption plan.

Support Your Daughter as a Future Birthmother

As a future birthmother, your daughter needs you to be supportive and educated about adoption. Read about adoption and learn how adoption works today. If your daughter is creating a birth plan, learn what she’s put in it and offer to be her support person. Be willing to share what you know, but respect your daughter’s choices as well.

Support Yourself

As your daughter faces her own emotions about the pregnancy, birth, and adoption, you’ll face new emotions as well. You may feel angry, resentful, or afraid, and that’s normal. Don’t hesitate to speak to a counselor yourself or talk with friends about your feelings. By doing what you need to do to support yourself, you can be a better parent for your daughter at this time.

When you’re looking into adoption, Family Formation can help. We’re an adoption law firm, and we’re also birthmothers and adoptive parents. We can help your family as your daughter considers adoption for her baby. Call us for a free consultation.

Images Courtesy of Family Formation: Client photos printed with permission.

The arrival of a new baby is an enormous life event for anyone. Unfortunately, there are people who are unable to conceive a child. That is when a surrogacy program can be considered. There are a number of steps involved in a surrogacy process, and being a surrogate mother calls for important consideration as well. Women looking to become a surrogate mother for someone in need likely have a lot of questions to ask before making the decision.

Here are five questions you should ask before choosing to become a surrogate mother.

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1. What is a surrogate mother?

With any big decision, it’s good to start with basic information. A surrogate mother is a woman willing to help a couple or single individual experience the joy of parenthood, when they are unable to birth a child themselves. A surrogate mother steps in to carry the child to term and birth.

A surrogate has generally had previous pregnancies without issues, and has possibly raised children of her own. She is often between the ages of 21 and 35 and must be in strong physical and mental health. It is important that the child be carried to full term and birth without any incident. Obviously, she must be clean of all drugs, alcohol, and tobacco. It is also important that the surrogate mother be financially capable of caring for herself throughout the pregnancy. Out-of-pocket assistance from the intended parents is up to them; it is the surrogate’s responsibility to take care of finances for her and the baby during pregnancy.

2. What is expected of a surrogate mother?

Legal, emotional, and financial aspects have to be addressed during the surrogacy process. It is important to know the legal rights of both the surrogate mother and the intended parents.

Medical procedures and checkups are necessary for a healthy pregnancy. This means that, through out-of-pocket or insurance, doctor visits and procedures must be paid for. There are agency, attorney, and adoption fees to consider as well. This, of course, varies by situation, and all parties, their attorneys, and the agency have to be involved in all steps to ensure a smooth and problem-free process. Be sure that you know exactly what’s expected of you, legally and financially, as a surrogate mother before making the final decision.

3. Is my family supportive?

It is true that making the decision to become a surrogate is up to each individual person. It is, however, important to have the support of family and friends during the pregnancy. The process of becoming pregnant and giving birth can take up to a year, possibly longer.

The agency and intended parents will want to know that the surrogate’s family is on board, since most intended parents want the surrogate to carry their baby in a stress-free and positive environment. Also, the additional support helps to ensure that medical appointments are consistently attended. Surrogacy is a complicated process, and accessing all possible support is essential.

4. Will my background and history be a consideration?

Many intended parents aren’t keen on having a surrogate with a criminal past. Most agencies will run a background check as part of the surrogacy process or if requested by the intended parents. Small or minor offenses can usually be overlooked, but violent or drug-related problems raise a red flag.

It is important to be completely honest. A surrogate should share with the agency, attorney, and intended parents any past events that could cause problems during the surrogacy process. Again, some things can be overlooked, but it needs to be understood that another life hangs in the balance – that of the unborn child.

5. Am I completely ready to be a surrogate mother?

The previous questions are based on the steps and process of the surrogacy program. This question goes deeper and is hugely important. Carrying a child and supporting a life inside one’s body is a huge responsibility. Giving birth to a living, breathing child creates an intimate and instantaneous bond. It is important for women considering becoming surrogates to ask themselves this question.

Are they physically able to carry the baby? If so, when it is time, will they be emotionally and mentally ready to let that baby go with the intended parents? It is necessary to take the emotional health of all involved into consideration. It is a life-changing event for every person involved and has to be treated with care and respect.

The arrival of a new life into the world is a beautiful thing. The surrogacy process enables those who are unable to experience it traditionally, to experience it firsthand. The surrogacy program is a wonderful way to allow families to be started and is truly a gift incomparable to anything else. It is also a big decision to become a surrogate mother. Knowledge is power, and with these questions as a platform, we hope that anyone considering the life-changing option of surrogacy will be able to make an informed decision.

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Pregnant

You know that you need to stay healthy for yourself and your baby. Here’s how you can find support.

When you’re newly pregnant and scared and looking at your options, it’s hard to remember to do everything that you need to do to stay healthy as well. However, when you’re pregnant it is very important that you stay healthy, both for your sake and for your child’s health. Talking to an adoption professional can help you access resources that will help you stay healthy while pregnant.

Eating Well

When you’re busy, stressed, and on a limited income, it’s hard to eat well. In the early days of your pregnancy you may also experience morning sickness. If you have a network of friends or family who can support you, this is a good time to call them in to help with pre-cooked meals. If a limited income makes eating fruit and vegetables a challenge, see if you can sign up for WIC, a supplement that is designed for mothers and children.

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Getting good quality health care is a must when you’re pregnant. Your child’s adoptive parents may be able to help.

Quality Health Care

When you’re pregnant, both you and your child deserve quality health care. This includes prenatal care and a healthy, well-supported birth. Making an adoption and birth plan can help you ensure that your child’s birth goes as smoothly a possible. Work with adoption professionals to get information about your options for supported and funded prenatal care. In some states, the adoptive parents may also be able to help you with some of these costs.

Seeking Counseling

An unexpected pregnancy and the decision to pursue adoption can challenge you emotionally. Talk with your adoption professionals about counseling, and they will ensure that you have the ability to speak with a counselor who can help you think about your feelings and concerns related to the adoption. Collect your own support systems as well, and surround yourself with friends and family who will listen to you when you need a friendly ear.

Making a Plan

Making an adoption plan is one of the best things that you can do for your mental health when you’re pregnant and scared. Your plan can include what you’d like to happen during and after your child’s birth. Having a feeling of certainty will help you make plans for the future.

When you’re considering adoption, contact Family Formation. We’ll help you look at your options and talk to you about the support that’s available to you during your pregnancy. Our team of birth mothers and adoptive parents knows what you’re going through, and we’re here to help.

Images Courtesy of Family Formation: Client photos printed with permission.

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Making an adoption plan can help you get ready for the time right after your baby’s birth.

Using phrases like give baby up or put baby up for adoption is not the language we prefer to use when talking about making an adoption plan. Such language can be associated with negative feelings and may be offensive to some. But because the terms are commonly used to search for adoption information, we have decided to use the language in some of our articles.

When you’re pregnant and giving up a baby for adoption, you await your child’s birth with a wide range of emotions. When your child is born, you will have to make your final decision about who will care for your child. Preparing for your child’s birth will help you make a plan and feel confident in your choices.

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An adoption plan can spell out some of the simple but important choices you’ll need to make about the time right after your baby’s birth.

Choices About Your Baby

When you’re pregnant, you’re focused on staying healthy and preparing for your child’s birth. What happens when that day comes? Before your child is born, you’ll need to decide who you want in the room at the birth. Do you want to hold the baby? Think about whether you’d like to hold your child right after the birth or whether you’d like the adoptive family to be the first.

Would you like to breastfeed your baby? You may decide to breastfeed for the time you are in the hospital, pump milk for the baby, or you or the adoptive family may choose to bottle feed.

Moving the Adoption Forward

After you give birth, you’ll have a bit of time to make your final choice about the adoption. You’ll sign the termination of parental rights, which will help move the adoption process along and open the way for the adoptive parents to adopt your child.

Taking Care of Yourself

You’ll also want to think about self care after the birth. Do you have someone who can help take care of you physically and emotionally? Right after the birth, you will feel many emotions, from awe to sadness. It is helpful to have a friend or supportive family member who can stay with you and listen to you. You will need some time to physically recover, especially if you have a cesarean section. Think about who can advocate for your physical and emotional needs and plan what you will bring and who you will ask to be with you at the hospital.

Getting Ready

All of these choices can seem overwhelming, especially if you have to decide what to do on the spot. However, when you’re choosing adoption you can also make an adoption plan and a birth plan. These plans help you think about all of your choices, from what will happen during the birth to who will support you after the birth. Your adoption plan outlines how you’d like to proceed with the adoption and will include information about the type of adoption you are pursuing and what kind of contact you would like to have with your child in the future.

Your birth plan is for the day of the birth, and it outlines your desires for specific medical procedures and gives information about what you’d like to happen during and right after the birth. Having a plan can give you a greater sense of security because it helps you think through the choices that you’ll need to make.

If you’re pursuing adoption, contact Family Formation. We’re an adoption law firm that’s made up of birth mothers and others who have been touched by adoption. We understand the choices that you need to make, and we’ll help support you as you move through the adoption process.

Images Courtesy of Family Formation: Client photos printed with permission.

Using phrases like give baby up or put baby up for adoption is not the language we prefer to use when talking about making an adoption plan. Such language can be associated with negative feelings and may be offensive to some. But because the terms are commonly used to search for adoption information, we have decided to use the language in some of our articles.

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Through adoption, your child will become a beloved member of a new family.

When you’re pregnant with an unwanted pregnancy, it can feel like your world is falling apart. What will happen now? Where do you turn? If you’re thinking of giving your baby up for adoption, an adoption law firm or agency can help answer your questions about the process of adoption and can help you create an adoption plan.

Seeking Support

When you’re pregnant and feeling scared or unsure about the future, you don’t need to feel completely alone. You may not be able to raise this child, but there are adoption agencies and law firms who can help you make the choice to adopt and who will help you along this path. Adoption is a legal process, and you’ll need an adoption law firm or an agency to help you along the way. These professionals can also help you find other support such as counseling, and they can answer your questions about adoption. Look for a law firm or agency that fits your values and has good references. It’s important that they be there to answer your questions as they arise.

Finding Adoptive Parents

Some birth parents have adoptive parents in mind soon after they find out that they are pregnant, while others are completely uncertain. Whatever your situation might be, your law firm or agency can help you on your journey to find adoptive parents for your child. You can ask friends and family members for referrals or look at online profiles to find families who are the right fit for you and your child. You can also work with an agency or law firm who might have a family that is a great fit for you.

Making an Adoption Plan

Once you’ve found an adoptive family, you’ll work to create an adoption plan. This plan outlines your intentions for the pregnancy and birth as well as your plans for your future interactions with your child. Who will be present at the birth? Would you like to receive photos of your child, or would you like to visit your child? While you can talk about the options with the adoptive family, the adoption plan should feel comfortable to you.

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On the day of your child’s birth, your adoption plan can outline how you’d like to proceed.

The Birth of Your Child

The day your child is born is a huge day for you and for the adoptive parents. Remember that you’ll have your adoption plan to help you. You might decide to have the adoptive parents in the room. You could decide to breastfeed the baby or have the adoptive parents bottle feed in the hospital. Your choices are in your adoption plan, and they’re up to you.

Legal Processes

After your child is born, your law firm or adoption agency will help you and the adoptive family through the legal proceedings that follow the birth of the child. You’ll need to sign the termination of parental rights. Soon after, the adoptive family will go home with the baby, and you can receive updates and photos from the family if you have stated that you’d like to receive these. Some months later, the adoptive family will also go through the finalization of the adoption, and the baby will become a legal member of their family.

Are you thinking of creating an adoption plan for your baby? Contact Family Formation, and we’ll work with you to see how your child’s future could unfold. We’re adoptive parents and birth mothers ourselves, and our law firm focuses on creating families.

Images Courtesy of Family Formation: Client photos printed with permission.

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Many people have chosen adoption. Let your friend know that she is not alone.

You’re in high school, and your friend has just told you that she’s pregnant. What can you do to help? Support your friend through her pregnancy and adoption and help her find resource people who will help her create a plan for the future.

Pregnant and Scared

When your friend tells you she’s pregnant, what do you do? She’s likely scared, confused, and worried about her future. Right now, your friend needs a supportive and listening ear.

If you have a friend who’s chosen adoption, you can support her as she works to find the right support people who will help her pursue this path. She’ll want to find an adoption agency or law firm that echoes her values, is connected to her community, and has many positive references from past clients. This agency or law firm can act in many ways to support your friend in her adoption journey.

Finding Adoptive Parents

When a friend tells you she’s pregnant and that she’s chosen adoption, she may have potential adoptive parents in mind. However, she may also be looking for support or advice. There are many different ways to find adoptive parents. She might find them through friends and family who would like to adopt. She might look online at profiles and interview prospective adoptive families. She could work through an agency or law firm that already has families who are waiting to adopt.

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An adoption plan can cover the time during and long after the adoption has been finalized

You can listen to your friend’s wishes and help her clarify what she’s looking for in an adoptive family. For some people, a family’s religion may be very important, while for others it might be important that her child has a sibling. Help your friend as she narrows down prospective adoptive parents, and make sure that she has excellent legal support as she moves toward the next steps in the adoption.

Making an Adoption Plan

Once your friend has found adoptive parents, it’s time to create an adoption plan. An adoption plan will help her decide on many aspects of the adoption, including her plans for her child’s birth. Encourage her to add as many details as she needs to ensure that she feels comfortable with her plans for the future. For example, she might want to specify who will be in the room at the birth, who will hold her child first, and whether she will breastfeed her child.

After the adoption has taken place, the adoption plan will outline how the adoptive family and your friend will connect with each other in the future. Remind your friend to think about whether she’d like to see her child in the future or receive letters about her child. She can choose how comfortable she is with future contact and outline this in her adoption plan.

Help During the Pregnancy

Your friend may have immediate needs for help as well, especially if she doesn’t have a lot of support from her family. An adoption agency or law firm can help her get counseling as she works through the emotions surrounding adoption. In some states, she may also be able to get support from the adoptive parents before the birth. An agency or law firm can also help direct your friend to resources that will help her buy nutritious food and get housing and medical care if she is on her own.

When your friend tells you that she is pregnant, you may not know where to turn. Family Formation can help. We’re not only an adoption law firm, we’re also birth mothers and adoptive parents. We’ve been through the adoption process, and we understand your challenges and concerns. Contact us today for a free consultation.

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With support from an adoption law firm, you can feel confident in the adoption process.

When you’re giving a baby up for adoption, you need to have adoption help. Some of this help might come in the form of support from your friends and family. However, since adoption is a legal process, you also need to work with a trusted law firm or adoption agency so that you can complete all of the legal requirements that come with an adoption.

1. Connecting the Legal Dots

When you give your baby up for adoption, you need to make sure that you cover all of the legal aspects of the adoption. Even if you have a friend or family member who would like to adopt your child, you need to work with an adoption law firm to ensure that the family becomes the legal parents of the child. When you are at the hospital, you’ll have some time to make a final decision before you sign the termination of parental rights. After that, the adoption law firm will work with the birth family to finalize the adoption.

2. Complex Situations

Sometimes adoption is more complicated. You may not have contact with the birth father. You may be Native American and need to comply with the laws around Native American adoptions. You might need to find adoptive parents for a child with complex medical needs. While your situation is new to you, it is not new to adoption law firms. An adoption law firm can bring its experience to your specific adoption, helping you through any concerns and bumps that might happen during the process.

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Creating an adoption plan gives you a sense of security about your baby’s future.

3. Creating An Adoption Plan

When you’re pregnant and scared, one of the best things you can do is to create an adoption plan. This plan outlines what will happen during your pregnancy, during the birth, and after your baby is born. Who will be in the room when your baby is born? Will you breastfeed your baby? Will you have ongoing contact with your child? Creating an adoption plan helps you think through and make decisions about many different parts of the adoption. Your law firm can help you develop your unique plan.

4. Developing a Support Network

You may already have a network of supportive friends and family, or you might be looking for support. Whatever situation you are in, an adoption law firm can help you access additional support so that your pregnancy and adoption go smoothly. For example, you can connect with sources of prenatal medical care and food assistance so that you can help you and your baby stay healthy. You can visit a counselor to discuss your feelings about the adoption. In some states, the adoptive family may also be able to help support you.

If you’re looking for professional adoption help, contact Family Formation today. We’re an adoption law firm, and our staff have been in your shoes. We’re adoptive parents and birth mothers too. Contact us for a free consultation.

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When you’re a birth mother, you can feel overwhelmed by all of the choices involved. Making an adoption plan can help.

Using phrases like give baby up or put baby up for adoption is not the language we prefer to use when talking about making an adoption plan. Such language can be associated with negative feelings and may be offensive to some. But because the terms are commonly used to search for adoption information, we have decided to use the language in some of our articles.

When you’re pregnant and thinking about giving your baby up for adoption, it’s a time when you’re making lots of choices. After you’ve made the choice to pursue adoption, you need to decide what this looks like for you. Here are some of the choices you’ll need to make as you create an adoption plan.

Your Support Network

Who will you call in to support you during this time? Some birth mothers have a family or a partner who can provide support, while others lean on friends. Are there community resources that you can use, such as organizations that provide counseling and health care support to birth mothers? You’ll also need to decide who you’ll work with to complete the adoption. You may choose to work with an adoption agency or with a law firm. Find an agency or firm that is close to the community and can connect you with other resources so that you feel supported during this important time.

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An agency or law firm can help you choose adoptive parents for your child.

Choosing Adoptive Parents

Choosing your child’s adoptive parents is a huge choice and can seem very intimidating. Where do you begin? Your support system can be a great help at this time. You can work with an agency or law firm or friends and family to help find a family who is a good match for your values and the life that you’d like for your child. Make sure that you think about how much contact you’d like with your child as you speak with prospective adoptive families as well, so that you both agree on what your relationship will look like in the future.

Open or Closed Adoption

What will the adoption look like? Many women choose to pursue a form of open adoption, which means that your information and records and information about your child can flow between you and the adoptive parents. Open adoption comes in many forms, and you may choose to visit your child or simply receive updates or be open to information transfer if you, the child, and the adoptive family want this to happen. If you choose open adoption, you will need to determine how much contact you’d like to have between you and the adoptive family. If you pursue closed adoption, you will not have this flow of information between you and your child’s adoptive family.

What Happens in the Hospital?

You’ll also have to decide what will happen on and just after the time when your baby is born. You might want to have the adoptive parents present at the birth, and you might also want your own support person to be present. You may decide to hold and breastfeed your child, or you might decide to have the adoptive parents hold the child first. Whatever your choices, making an adoption plan can help you determine what will happen when you’re in the hospital and for a long time after that.

When you’re thinking of giving your baby up for adoption, you need support. We can provide it. Family Formation is an adoption law firm, and we’re here to help you as you create your adoption plan. Contact us today for a free consultation.

Images Courtesy of Family Formation: Client photos printed with permission.