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Our blog covers topics on adoption, assisted reproduction, and surrogacy.  You can read articles, personal stories, and commentaries written by our staff and our clients.  A complete listing of all blog postings appear in chronological order below.  To sort entries based on your interests, select one of the categories to the right under “categories.”

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While, before becoming a surrogate mother, you’re typically required to have had at least one successful pregnancy and childbirth, you may be wondering what your options are after completing a surrogate pregnancy. Specifically, you may be wondering if you can have additional children of your own after the surrogacy. While this is a topic to discuss with your doctor, here are some important questions to ask your doctor when the time for this conversation arrives. Here are some questions to consider.


Choosing to be a surrogate is an important and life changing decision, but you must also consider what comes after.

Is it wise to have more children of my own after becoming a surrogate mother?

This question may prompt your doctor to cite cases of other patients who decided to have more children of their own after becoming surrogate mothers and the risks that occurred in those cases. Several factors may impact your decision to have more children of your own including emotional risks, potential health complications, and more.

How long should I wait to become pregnant after being a surrogate?

Knowing how long you should wait to become pregnant again after a surrogacy is important because this will help you develop a timeline for possibly growing your family in the future. Asking your doctor this question will also help you create a plan of action regarding when to become a surrogate.

Are there emotional complications to consider when thinking of having more children of my own after the surrogacy?

If you haven’t yet gone through the surrogacy, you may not know what to expect in terms of the emotions that can come with the situation. Your doctor may be able to provide insight on the emotional ties of surrogacy or may refer you to a mental health professional who can answer this and similar questions.

Are there any notes I should take regarding my health and energy levels during the surrogate pregnancy that could impact the possibility of future pregnancies?

Keeping track of any health problems during your surrogate pregnancy may be important and may help your doctor determine if a future pregnancy is safe. Attending your regularly scheduled prenatal appointments during the surrogate pregnancy is another beneficial way to track this information.

Will my age in a few years impact the safety of a future pregnancy?

If you’re approaching the higher end of the recommended childbearing years, you may want to ask your doctor if another pregnancy after being a surrogate is a safe option. Learning that a pregnancy in a few years may be risky can be difficult, but it’s information you should know when deciding whether to have more children of your own.


Think you may want more children of your own after a surrogate pregnancy? Ask your doctor several important questions regarding this topic.

Becoming a surrogate mother is an important and life changing decision, but you may be wondering what your options are after the surrogate pregnancy. Having additional children of your own after a surrogate pregnancy is often an option, but there are important questions to ask your doctor regarding this topic before making a final decision. If you’re ready to become a surrogate mother, contact us today at (925) 945-1880 to get started.

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Choosing adoption for your soon-to-arrive newborn is a major decision, but it’s only the start of your adoption journey. The next crucial step is selecting the adopting family, and, in many ways, this decision can be the most stressful of all. However, you can ask potential adopting families several questions to learn more about them and to ease the selection process. Here are 9 important questions to ask when first meeting potential adoptive families.


Asking several questions of potential adoptive families will help solidify your decision as a birth mother to choose adoption.

1. Why do you want to adopt?

When comparing adoptive parents, you will likely want to know why each couple wants to adopt. This question can offer a great deal of insight into the emotional details behind each couple’s desire to adopt.

2. What do your friends and family think about your decision to adopt?

Knowing what the friends and family of adoptive parents think about their decision to adopt shows how much support the parents will receive after bringing the baby home. You want to be sure that the child will be fully welcomed and loved by the extended family of the adoptive parents.

3. Why do you think you will be a good parent?

Parenting is tough work and you want to be sure that the adoptive parents you choose are up for the challenge. This question will offer insight into the notions that the adoptive family may have regarding parenthood.

4. Do you plan to work and, if so, what is your child care plan?

If the child will be attending daycare, you want to feel certain that the adoptive parents have a solid plan in place for selecting a safe and loving daycare environment.

5. How will you explain adoption to your child?

Although explaining adoption to the child may not happen for several years, this is an important question because it will show whether the adoptive parents have planned for the future questions the child will likely have.

6. What kind of relationship do you envision with the birth mother of your child?

You want to be sure that your ideas of the adoption arrangement mesh with those of the adoptive parents and this question will offer insight on those ideas.

7. Can you describe your daily schedule?

Having a general idea of the adoptive family’s daily schedule will help you determine whether their lifestyle will fully allow for the demands of parenthood.

8. What type of housing and neighborhood do you live in?

Knowing the type of housing and neighborhood of the adoptive parents can help you be certain that the child will be taken home to a safe and loving environment.

9. Do you have other children?

Knowing whether the adoptive family has other children and whether those children are also adopted will offer additional insight on why the family wants to adopt another child. It will also help you learn more about their home environment.


You aren’t alone in making sure you select the very best adoptive parents for your baby. We are here to help.

You can learn much from adoptive parent profiles, but asking additional questions in person or over the phone is often the best way to solidify your selection of the adopting family. Adoption is a major decision and it can often feel overwhelming. However, you aren’t alone in the journey. When you’re ready to learn more about adoption, contact us at (925) 945-1880.

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Receiving the news of a confirmed pregnancy can lead to a range of emotions. For some women, the initial reaction is joy. For others, the news brings concern or worry regarding readiness for motherhood. If you’ve recently found out you’re pregnant, but are questioning if you’re ready to be a mother, you have options. First, ask yourself the following questions to determine whether or not you’re ready for motherhood. Then, explore your options and know that a vast support system is at hand to help. At Family Formation we firmly believe that giving the baby up for adoption not giving up!


Motherhood can bring many joys, but it can also bring much stress. If you aren’t ready, it’s OK to explore your options such as adoption.

Are you in a loving and nurturing relationship?

While many single parents have successfully raised children, it isn’t easy. Being in a loving and nurturing relationship means you’ll have a partner to help with those late night feedings and to ease the stress of parenthood. If you envision parenthood as having a supportive partner by your side, but don’t currently have that partner, then you may not be ready for motherhood just yet.

What are your living arrangements?

Do you live in a safe and stable home or are you uncertain of your future living arrangements? Being in between homes and trying to raise a baby will put stress on you and the infant, and is a factor to closely consider when deciding if you’re ready for motherhood.

Have you achieved your educational dreams?

Going to school and raising a child is challenging. If you dream of earning a college degree, but are still several years away from achieving that dream, then motherhood may need to wait.

How is your health?

Your health impacts how well you’re able to care for a child. If you currently have any major health concerns, you’ll need to closely examine how those health issues will impact your ability to be a mother.

What is your financial situation?

Between diapers, clothes, and gear, babies cost a lot of money. Are your finances stable or a little shaky? Closely examining your financial situation and projecting what that situation will be in a few years is important when considering whether you can afford to raise a child.

Are you ready to give up your independence?

A tough question to consider when thinking about whether you’re ready for motherhood is deciding if you’re prepared to give up your independence. While it may seem like a selfish question, deciding if you’re ready to dedicate your days and nights to caring for a child is essential when pondering motherhood.

Taking the Next Step

If you decide that you aren’t ready to be a mom, you have options. Adoption is an option many birth mothers have successfully chosen and, while giving your baby up for adoption can be difficult, it may also be the best option at this time in your life.


If you aren’t quite ready to be a mom, you have options.

At Family Formation, we’ve helped guide many other birth mothers through the adoption process and we’re here to assist you as well. From choosing a form of adoption to selecting the adoptive parents, we can help with the many important decisions you will soon be making. Contact us today to learn more.

Call us if you have any questions or just want to speak with someone about your options. Always confidential and always free: (925) 945-1880 or (800) 877-1880. You can also text (925) 528-8158 or click here to contact us confidentially via email. We look forward to hearing from you!

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Want to become a surrogate, but feeling a little uncertain about what to expect during the in vitro fertilization process? Entering into this uncharted territory can be frightening, but many women before you have successfully gone through the process, and with today’s advanced technology, the success rate of in vitro fertilization is higher than ever. Put your worries at ease by becoming informed on what you can expect in each step of the process.


Wondering what’s required to receive a positive pregnancy test as a surrogate? Read on to find out.

Understanding Gestational Surrogacy

The form of surrogacy where the embryo is created by using both the biological father’s sperm and the biological mother’s egg and is then transferred to the surrogate’s uterus is known as gestational surrogacy. As a gestational surrogate, you will not actually be biologically related to the child as opposed to a form of surrogacy known as traditional surrogacy, where a woman acts as both the egg donor and the surrogate for the embryo.

The In Vitro Fertilization Process

Often, the biological mother and the surrogate are first given medications to control the progression of their menstrual cycles and to bring them into sync, a process known as cycle synchronization. This synchronization helps ensure that the surrogate’s uterus is ready to receive the embryos when they’re ready to be transferred. However, the exact medications you’ll be given and the timeline of preparing for in vitro fertilization can vary and are details to discuss with your doctor.

With gestational surrogacy, the biological mother’s egg is first fertilized and is then transferred to the uterus of the surrogate using the process of in vitro fertilization. Typically, embryos develop in the laboratory for three to five days before being transferred to the surrogate.

The embryo transfer process is typically quite fast and involves the insertion of a catheter into your uterus through which the embryo will be deposited. Whether or not more than one embryo will be deposited is something to discuss when you’re considering surrogacy. You may be required to remain at the doctor’s office for a few hours for monitoring.

If the embryo attaches properly and you continue into pregnancy, you should then be released into the monitoring of your OB/GYN through regular prenatal appointments.

Success Rates

The success rate of in vitro fertilization with gestational surrogacy depends on several factors. These can include the age and health of the biological mother providing the eggs and even where the procedure takes place. As a surrogate, you can help increase the chances of success by starting the process off in a healthy manner. A healthy weight and good lifestyle choices lead to a healthier pregnancy and reduce the risk of complications from in vitro fertilization to childbirth.


As a surrogate, you can help turn another family’s dreams of parenthood into reality.

Ready to take the first step toward becoming a surrogate? At Family Formation, we’re ready to help turn your dream of surrogate motherhood into reality. Contact us today to learn more and find out how you can help another family experience the joy of parenthood.

Call us if you have any questions, concerns or just want to speak with someone. We’re ready to help: (925) 945-1880 or (800) 877-1880. Or if you are ready to get started click here to apply now.

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Sometimes it can be hard to hear that your daughter is pregnant, especially if the pregnancy was not planned.  If your daughter is pregnant and she’s thinking about adoption, this article may be helpful to you in thinking about how to help and support your daughter through the process.  The content of this article is based on advice directly from parents of birth mothers.

Adoption must be the mother’s decision

Letting your daughter decide whether to place her child for adoption might be the hardest part for you as her parent.  “I had to really let go in ways that were SO hard,” says Sally.  As a parent, you have life experience that your daughter might not, and you know all too well the challenges of parenting, including the sacrifices.  But you also know that your daughter will live with whatever she chooses, even after you are gone.  It’s important that she make her own decisions her choice if she’s able to live with it and move forward.  Many birth mothers say that .

 

 

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I wanted to share with you all what has happened in this incredible journey.  I share this with you all because I want you all to know just how much my wife, a surrogate mother, means to me!  I want her to know that what she has done is appreciated not just by the couple she was a surrogate mother for, but it is appreciated by me.  What she has done has changed so many lives including mine.  To give someone the gift of life is a miracle. She has put others first to make their dreams come true.  I tell you I will do my best to make her the happiest women alive and help her raise our kids to realize that life is about having a positive impact on the lives of others! Brittney and Husband

This year my wife Brittney and I met two potential parents that have been through so much trying to have a baby.  Their only DREAM was to have a baby!!  They never gave up faith or hope.  Our amazing friends at Family Formation (especially Dory) set us up with couples looking for a surrogate mother and who they felt we would be compatible with.  We met a few and really were undecided.  Brittney received a phone call a couple weeks later and was told, “Brittney I found the couple for you guys.  I think you will really like them.”  I must say, Dory knew exactly what she was talking about.  I’m not sure if it was luck or all the faith the couple had but Dory was right.  These were the ones.  I still remember it like it was yesterday, meeting at the restaurant in Berkeley.  The couple showed up with smiles, joy and chocolate chip cookies.  I swear they knew that Brittney loved to eat.  Let’s just say after a late lunch we fell in love!  This was a choice from the both of us; we wanted to change the life of these people forever.  God led us to this point for a reason and Brittney and I both felt this was going to be another life changing journey for all of us.

Day in and day out, shot after shot, I knew for a fact I couldn’t go through what my amazing wife, Brittney Ann, did.  Whether it was medicine going into her mouth, stomach, leg, it just didn’t matter to her.  She had the determination to change this couple’s life!

Transfer day finally arrived.  Fingers were crossed and prayers were said the night before.  Brittney and I had our game faces on.  I told her keep faith and don’t do anything different.  Let the doctor do his job and we’ll keep faith that everything is going to turn out ok.  After the transfer, we all gathered by Brittney’s bedside to make her comfortable and let her know she wasn’t alone.

Eight weeks later it was time to check if baby A and baby B had stuck.  Brittney and I went in and the couple followed.  We were all anxious for what was going to happen next.  Our doctor began the ultrasound, and told us just what we wanted to hear:  “There is baby A and…. right …. here…. is baby B… both babies have a nice heart beat.”  Twins!  Tears of joy and hugs!  The whole car ride home Brittney and I smiled and talked about how incredible this was about to be.

Every single day of the pregnancy, the amazing couple was so involved whether it was phone calls, texts, emails and coming to doctor appointments.  At every appointment they had a little special gift for both of our kids that made them smile from ear to ear.  Those little things were the things that counted the most!

We went to bed one night toward the end of the pregnancy, and in the middle of the night Brittney’s water broke around 2:17am.  First thing Brittney could think of was that it was too early, she was only 30wks.  She started crying and I told her, “Relax, you need to relax and remember what our doctor said–if they were born at 30weeks they would very likely be just fine.”  We went to the hospital, and they looked at the babies and told her everything looks fine, and at any moment she could go into labor so they would have to keep her there from now and possibly until her due date.

I can remember seeing her face and the disbelief.  It was early December and Brittney would miss Christmas.  She was going to miss seeing Elija Jr. in the Christmas rally today.  Who was going to watch them?  Who was going to stay with her?  Who was going to do everything at home?  Everything was running through her head and she was asking me question after question.  I just kept reassuring her that everything was going to be fine.

The couple arrived at the hospital, and I told them all, “We didn’t come this far to give up hope and start to worry now.  We have to keep faith the babies are going to be fine, and Brittney will relax and do her best to be comfortable in this room as long as it takes.  It’s not going to be easy for any of us, but we have to get it together for Brittney and these babies.”  The babies’ mother told me after that, “Through all of this Elija, your words have touched me and you have given me hope that everything is going to be fine.”

Christmas finally came and it’s the couple’s favorite day.  Santa came to the hospital!! We had planned a big Christmas dinner with Brittney in her room to show her how much we all love her.  Let’s just say this Christmas was the best present she could have given anybody…the babies were born that day, first the baby girl at around 1:30 pm, and then the baby boy.  Finally, the moment we all worked for had arrived.  The family’s puzzle was complete on Christmas day.

Call us if you have any questions, concerns or just want to speak with someone. We’re ready to help: (925) 945-1880 or (800) 877-1880. Or if you are ready to get started click here to apply now.

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Giving your baby up for adoption is not an easy decision. In fact, it will likely be one of the hardest decisions of your life. At Family Formation, we’ve worked with many birth mothers and have witnessed the range of emotions that come with the adoption process. Sadness, concern, and guilt can all enter the picture. The following are descriptions of the main emotions you’ll likely feel when going through this experience and details on how to work through them.


Adoption is an emotional process. Remember that every emotion you feel through this experience is normal and assistance is available.

Sadness

At the end of your pregnancy, you will have carried your baby for just under a year. During those months, you’ll naturally have developed a bond with the child and the thought of giving the baby up for adoption can lead to immense sadness. This sadness can be linked to many things including thoughts of what it would have been like to raise the child, post-natal hormones, and confusion of learning how to move on with your life.

Allow yourself to feel the sadness as it can be a natural part of the adoption process. However, if you think the sadness is progressing into depression, you may want to consider counseling to learn how to effectively cope and recover. Speaking with other birth mothers that have gone through the adoption process, your family, and friends can also help relieve your sadness.

Concern

While you’ll likely spend countless hours selecting just the right adoptive family for your baby, you may still feel concern about what the future will bring for the child. Worrying that you may have chosen the wrong adoptive parents is normal, but your concerns can be put to ease by remaining in contact with your representative at Family Formation. Also, choosing an open form of adoption and receiving regular updates from the adoptive family can help ease your concerns about the child’s well-being.

Guilt

You chose adoption for a reason and, while you may know it’s the best option for you and the child, you may still feel guilty about not keeping the baby. Again, feeling guilty about choosing adoption is normal and is an emotion felt by many birth mothers. Re-assessing your situation and re-visiting your main reasons for choosing adoption will help to reaffirm that this really was the best choice for you and the child.  Remember that giving your baby up for adoption is not giving up.

Relief

One emotion many birth mothers don’t feel comfortable voicing but that is completely normal is relief. You may feel a sense of relief after choosing adoption for several reasons.

First, a firm plan of action will finally be in place and you’ll feel more able to move forward in life. Second, you may not be at a point in life where you’re ready to raise a child and feeling relief at being able to mature a little more before becoming a parent is completely normal. Don’t be ashamed of these feelings. They are natural and normal and can help reaffirm that adoption was the right choice for you.

Regret

When the day in the hospital arrives to send the baby home with the adoptive parents, you may feel regret. This regret can come from thoughts of what could have been. It can also lead to second guessing your choice of adoption. While this sense of regret is normal and often passes, if you’re strongly second-guessing the decision, take a little more time to make sure that adoption really is the right choice before finalizing the process.


Sadness, relief, regret and other emotions can all enter the picture when choosing adoption.

The emotions you experience when giving your baby up for adoption are completely normal and you’re not alone in the experience. We’ve been there and we’ve helped many other birth mothers through the adoption process. Contact Family Formation today and let us guide you through the adoption process.

Call us if you have any questions or just want to speak with someone about your options. Always confidential and always free: (925) 945-1880 or (800) 877-1880. You can also text (925) 528-8158 or click here to contact us confidentially via email. We look forward to hearing from you!

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If you’re thinking of becoming a surrogate mom, many thoughts and questions are likely racing through your mind. One important factor to consider is learning how healthy a surrogate mother should be before she becomes pregnant and also throughout her pregnancy. From being a non-smoker to having at least one pregnancy and childbirth without medical complications, the following are the health guidelines women are typically required to follow when becoming surrogates in California.


Being a healthy surrogate mom is important for you and for the future baby.

Have a Clean Alcohol and Drug Record

Having a record free of alcohol and drug abuse is important when becoming a surrogate. This clean record offers proof that you lead a healthy lifestyle and that you will continue that healthy lifestyle during the surrogate pregnancy.

Have a Healthy Pregnancy and Childbirth History

One important health requirement you’ll need to meet when applying to become a surrogate is showing that you have already had at least one healthy pregnancy and childbirth. Having children of your own shows that you’re able to become pregnant and go through childbirth without any significant or life-threatening complications. Already having your own children also shows that you can handle the mental and physical demands of pregnancy and childbirth.

Be a Non-Smoker

Being a non-smoker is important when becoming a surrogate, as is living in a smoke-free home. Smoking during pregnancy has been linked to many complications such as low birth weight and pre-term labor and must be avoided.

Be Able to Complete a Problem-Free Medical Exam

Undergoing a thorough medical exam is required before women can become surrogates. The results of the physical exam must show that a woman is free of STDs or other significant medical complications. The medical exam you complete before becoming a surrogate is also a great opportunity to ask your doctor any questions and to voice any concerns you may have about becoming pregnant again.

Other Guidelines for a Healthy Pregnancy

Apart from making sure you meet the health requirements to become a surrogate, you should also prepare for a healthy pregnancy and childbirth by learning of the general guidelines all women should follow when having a child. Here are just a few of the guidelines to consider:

  • Stay Active - Staying active during pregnancy is important for maintaining a healthy weight and also for keeping your energy high. Prenatal yoga and other fitness classes designed for pregnant women are great opportunities to stay active and connect with other pregnant women.
  • Eat Healthy Foods - Choosing healthy foods and drinks during pregnancy is essential for proper fetal development. Eating healthfully will also help to keep your energy high and can thwart excessive weight gain.
  • Attend Prenatal Appointments - Going to each of your prenatal appointments will help to keep your healthy pregnancy on track. Prenatal appointments are also important for detecting any potential complications in their early stages so they can be corrected or monitored.


Wondering how to be a healthy surrogate mom? We can help answer your questions.

The decision to become a surrogate is a major one and there are many factors to consider before beginning the journey. At Family Formation, we have helped many women become surrogates and we are available to answer any questions you may have about becoming a surrogate mom. Contact us today to get started.

Call us if you have any questions, concerns or just want to speak with someone. We’re ready to help: (925) 945-1880 or (800) 877-1880. Or if you are ready to get started click here to apply now.

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Becoming a surrogate can be a rewarding and life changing experience. Perhaps you want to help an infertile friend or family member, or maybe you want to help a couple you’ve never met experience the joy of parenthood. Apart from your reasons for wanting to become a surrogate, your first step is learning whether you qualify to accept this new role.

To get started, review these top seven qualifications you need to become a surrogate. Qualifications often vary, so use these only as general guidelines.


Want to help another family experience the joys of parenthood? Learn how you can qualify to become a surrogate.

Good Health

You must be at a healthy weight, which will be determined by your age, height, and other factors. Being significantly overweight can cause complications during pregnancy and childbirth and could put your health at risk. Along with having a healthy weight, you will need to be in good overall health, with no significant medical complications or concerns.

No History with Drugs or Alcohol

A health record free of drug abuse or alcoholism is important when applying to become a surrogate. Intended parents will often be wary of selecting a surrogate with a history of drug or alcohol abuse. Having a clean record helps show that you’ll lead a healthy pregnancy.

Clean Mental Health Record

You must have a clean mental health history when applying to become a surrogate. This experience comes with many emotions and you must be in the proper mental state to handle them. You may also be required to undergo regular counseling during and after the surrogate pregnancy.

Be of a Certain Age

Surrogates are typically required to be older than 21 but younger than 35. However, this guideline can vary in each situation and may be considered alongside your age and other factors. Age restrictions are often placed on surrogates because pregnancy at an older age can cause medical complications.

Have Your Own Children

Surrogates should typically be finished having their own children and, in many cases, surrogates already have children and are currently raising them. This shows that you have already experienced at least one complication-free pregnancy and childbirth.

Find Insurance

You don’t need medical insurance when you apply at Family Formation to become a surrogate and a lack of medical insurance won’t disqualify your application from approval. However, after the application process is complete and you’re ready to move forward, you will then need to find medical insurance. We have helped many other surrogates find medical insurance that covers maternity and childbirth and that doesn’t include an exclusion clause for surrogacy, and we will be happy to help you as well.

Have a Flexible Schedule

When applying to become a surrogate, you must show that your schedule is flexible. Steps in the surrogacy process such as insemination or embryo transfer take time and will typically require you to miss work. Also, you must be able to get to and from doctor and prenatal appointments.


Making sure you meet the mental and physical requirements for surrogacy is important for your health and the health of the future child.

Learning whether you meet the emotional, physical and other qualifications to become a surrogate can be time consuming, but the process can be worthwhile. Surrogacy can be a reality for you and Family Formation will help you through each step of the journey. Contact us now to learn how you can help another family experience the joy of parenthood.

Call us if you have any questions, concerns or just want to speak with someone. We’re ready to help: (925) 945-1880 or (800) 877-1880. Or if you are ready to get started click here to apply now.

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At 58 years old, would you feel comfortable accepting the role of being a surrogate? Well, in Provo, Utah, that’s the age at which a woman has become a surrogate mother for her daughter and son-in-law. It’s the latest story in a shift toward women becoming surrogates at older ages, and it’s causing many women to consider how old may be too old for surrogate motherhood.

The decision to become a surrogate at an older age works well in some situations, but not every woman can or would want to become pregnant at 40, or 50, or 60. If you’re thinking of becoming a surrogate, but are concerned about your age, review the following age factors to determine if surrogacy is right for you.


Want to become a surrogate but concerned about your age? Learn the risks and assess your situation to make the best plan of action.

Reviewing the Average Surrogate Age

When considering how old may be too old for surrogate motherhood, it’s important to first review the typical age of surrogate mothers. On average, surrogate mothers are between the ages of 21 and 37 years old.

Often, surrogate mothers are required to be at least 21 years old to ensure they are ready to deal with the intricacies of surrogate parenting. Also, women younger than 21 may not yet have their own children, which is typically a requirement for surrogacy. The upper end of that age range may not be the cut off put in place by agencies but, instead, the personal age limit at which many women are no longer confident in pursuing a healthy surrogate pregnancy and childbirth.

Considering Possible Complications of Surrogacy at an Older Age

When thinking of becoming a surrogate at an older age, you must consider the possible complications of pregnancy and childbirth. Although many older women have successful pregnancies and childbirths, problems can occur and you must be prepared to handle them.

Certain chronic illnesses such as high blood pressure, diabetes and preeclampsia arise more commonly among women who become pregnant at an older age. However, staying fit and active can help offset potential problems. Also, if you decide to become a surrogate, going to every prenatal appointment will be very important to help catch and monitor potential problems in their early stages.

Assessing Your Circumstances

More than anything, your situation and health factors will impact whether you can become a surrogate at an older age. Every woman is different and every situation is different. Before you look into the possibility of becoming a surrogate, schedule an appointment with your OB/GYN.

At the appointment, tell your doctor about your intentions to become a surrogate and voice any concerns you may have regarding the decision. Listen intently to your doctor’s advice and thoroughly review all results of your physical exam. These conclusions should offer a firm plan of action as to whether or not you should become a surrogate.


Thinking of becoming a surrogate? Scheduling an appointment with your doctor is an important first step.

Remember, no two surrogate motherhoods are the same. The age at which some women feel comfortable becoming pregnant will likely not be the same for you. At Family Formation, we’ve helped women in many age groups become surrogates and we’re here to help you as well. Contact us today to learn more about our services.

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